Are you someone who loves hosting parties but gets nervous in social situations? Does the thought of having guests over at your place send shivers down your spine? Don't worry, you're not alone! Hosting a party can be overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be. Here are five ways to overcome social anxiety while hosting a party.

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1) Plan ahead

One key to not being anxious at the event is preparation. Plan out all the details beforehand, including the menu, the guest list, and the party activities. By having a set plan, you'll feel more confident and in control of the situation. You can also prepare conversation topics that will help you engage with your guests more naturally.

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2) Create a relaxing atmosphere

Setting the tone for a relaxing atmosphere can greatly reduce social anxiety for both you and your guests. Play some upbeat music, light candles or turn on some twinkling lights. Also, consider offering refreshments and snacks that your guests will enjoy. Creating a cozy ambiance will not only help you feel more at ease but will also help your guests feel more comfortable.

And remember: relaxing does NOT mean perfect. If your space is perfect and you're a ball of anxiety by the end of getting it perfect, no one wins in that scenario. Relaxing means invitational, vulnerable, and giving your space and yourself a ton of grace. Your authenticity will let your guests know they are welcome and can always bring their whole selves to the gathering. 

3) Have Conversation Starters on Hand

Speaking of conversation topics...The last thing you want is for your guests to come and sit down in awkward silence. To ensure the conversation flows, have a few conversation starters on hand that will get everyone talking. These could be questions about their favorite vacation spot or what new shows they’re watching on Netflix right now. Not only will it get people talking, but it’ll also give you insight into the interests of your guests so that you can plan future parties accordingly. 

Need some convo inspiration? Check out our gratitude conversation cards that are made for scenarios just like this! 

4) Focus on your guests

One way to take the focus off of your social anxiety is to focus more on your guests. It may seem counterintuitive, but by putting your energy and attention on your guests, you'll become less self-conscious and more engaged. Ask them about themselves, their interests, and their experiences. Remember that people love to talk about themselves, and by asking good questions, you'll keep the conversation flowing naturally.

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5) Be yourself

At the end of the day, the most important thing is to be yourself. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to be "perfect" or to impress your guests. Embrace your quirks and be authentic. Remember that your guests are here to have a good time, and they won't judge you for being yourself. (And even if the occasional guest does, that's a reflection of them and not you.) Your authenticity and willingness to be vulnerable may even help your guests open up more.

Hosting a party can be nerve-wracking, but it doesn't have to be. By planning ahead, focusing on your guests, creating a relaxing atmosphere, and being yourself, you'll feel more confident and in control of the situation. Remember that your guests are here to have a good time, and they're not there to judge you. So relax, enjoy the moment, and have fun!